Couples Therapy

Couples often come to therapy feeling stuck—caught in the same patterns, having the same arguments, and unsure how to move forward. Beneath the surface, there’s usually a deeper longing to feel understood, connected, and secure with one another.

In our work together, we begin with an important shift:

You are not the problem—the cycle is.

My approach to couples therapy is rooted in Internal Family Systems for couples (IFIO), which helps us understand not just what’s happening between you, but what’s happening inside each of you. Before we focus on the relationship itself, we take a deeper look at each partner’s story—often using a genogram to explore family history, patterns, and the experiences that have shaped how you show up in relationships.

From there, we begin to identify your relationship dynamic—especially the conflict cycle you get caught in—and work together to slow it down, understand it, and interrupt it. As you begin to recognize these patterns, you’ll learn how to turn toward one another with more clarity, compassion, and intention, rather than reacting from old wounds or protective patterns.

Because this work takes time and space, I don’t typically begin couples therapy with traditional 50-minute sessions. Most couples start with extended sessions (typically 2 hours), which allows us to move beyond surface-level conversations and into the deeper work more effectively. As we build momentum and you feel less stuck, shorter sessions may become more useful and less frustrating.